Posting and What Not I Guess, Maybe Ugh!

I need to post more. tell your friends, to tell their friends to tell my friends (wait I don't want all of them reading this) so tell someone else's friends to check me out, and maybe I will start writing more. (she typed feverishly). I'm just so.... not happy with myself right now. I need.... something to hold on to...

Like Used Paper Towels

Like Used Paper Towels

Your love,

Is like used paper towels

All crumbled around, to see

There's nothing

Nothing

Left, to clean

There's nothing

nNothing

Left for me.

And I find myself wondering

Why

Oh why, else could there be?

And why oh why me?

Do you think, that I, would ever

Be free?

From your love

Your love....it's using me

Your love, oh

Is using me,

What belongs to you

And what belongs to me

Whomever

Wherever

These tears are to be

No warmth

No,

Nothing for me.

To dry my tears on

No 'sort of'

Just nothing.

For me

Your love

Is like, used paper towels

Nothing

Nothing left for me

To dry my tears

Nothing, nothing

For me.

Your Woman

I can't believe I'm still in love with him.... I have been dreaming, thinking, hell craving a chance to just say all types of things to him....and even though I will be getting the chance to later this month, I don't think I can even get out 10% of how I feel about us. How unfair. I refuse to be a harlot. To throw caution and the foundation I've recently built to the wind just because your feet are finally planted on the ground. Why is this happening? For a short while I thought it was a gift, but I'm starting to believe it is a test. To see how faithful I can be. To see if I can move past the world that is the past into the present and future.

I think I'm over thinking it (definitely). I think I'm also setting myself up for failure. But why? why do I want things to fall apart? I know what's good for me, but I also know what I personally would like. Too often are those two things in contrast of each other.

I definitely need to have a conversation with a few different parties, ie all of the parties involved. Not necessarily together. Plenty of my friends roll their eyes at me now. They are tired of hearing my story. I guess it could get very annoying after such a long time. But I feel like, if my friends had this issue, they would understand why its such a long winded problem. Why It's so hard to throw away 6 long years of waiting, longing, and wanting. And even if they did understand. They will never feel the way I feel, just like I can never feel the way they feel. I know my actions and feelings are being judged. I don't care to hear the many opinions of those who can't get the simple parts of their lifes together. Though, those seem to be the ones with the most knowledge on the subject....

I will be a perfect host for him. I managed to set up two friends simultaneously visiting over the weekend, that way I will be too busy to sit down and sin. Though... three days alone with someone is more than enough time to become a different person.

I pray every night that things can be resolved and I can move on to bigger and better things. I know I will eventually...just not in an easy going sort of way. Everything happens in a kind of difficult sort of way. In a way I'd rather not deal with. Someone always gets hurt.

The Warming Of Night

I want him. I want him to make love to me. I've never felt the burn that is sin and desire like I have for him. He haunts my ever wakening, my slumber too. I find lips pursed, breast tender, and body, alert and in waiting. The thought of his touch arouses me. And his words; paradise. What have I done to deserve such temptation, such beguile and uninhibited desire. Want. Need. I need to feel him. In so many more ways then sexual. I need him to slide his hands beneath my dress, for him to feel the heat of my thigh, the wanting. I need him to press himself against me and breath-- heavily, slowly on the nape of my neck. I want to feel his body --his warmth. I want to feel him. His entirety, his soul.

But maybe She is right. Maybe I am in love with the idea, more than the man. Can you imagine? So many years. So many desires. So much waiting. Can you imagine What would happen if I gave him that keys? If I closed my eyes and let him drive. All he needs is an okay, a signal, a sign. All he needs is for me to let him come into me, In every way a man, can come into a woman. In parts, in whole. In spirit and in mind. All that is stopping him is me. And I want him so badly. Why do I stop him?

Have I forgotten the years past? The ones involving dangerously alluring eyes and lustful thoughts. His words. I dare not speak what my tongue did seek in fear of the retribution that would follow.....And he-- I don't deserve him. He that is noble to me, and my love. But... the other, his hands are strong and rough from his trade, from his manhood. And I, as soft as a lily floats, lay, as always, in open and waiting for a time where that heat-- that fire-- that passion will melt all walls between us and create, bore, that of what a phoenix is made. That scorching of inhibition.

My only regret is not tempting him as he does me. Giving him my full attention, ruining any of his efforts to be good, to be wholesome, to be pure. That and my secret desire, my deliciously private.... one, that would involve, my complete destruction, his complete being. My full attention, his absolute enduring....my God and my everything. His eyes and words and mouth and touch....stalking my every waking, yet desolate hours.

I am a fool for him; and forever will be.  

Was There Ever?

I don't think I understand completely the magnitude of all of my actions. I often find myself wanting to "be in the know" almost all the time only to cringe at the knowledge I've gained. Such is the way of life. I had a dream where the sky turned to night and the stars began to swirl. I think it was the end of the world or something, but it ended with me feeling so much comfort from the thought of a fresh start, a new beginning-- even if I wasn't a part of it.

That's a sick thought for most. But I don't really think so. I think that's a noble one. To want to start over again from scratch. Can you imagine what the world would be like? If every couple of hundred of years everything just restarted? kind of like a giant worldwide reincarnation. What if that's what keeps happening: a mass reboot of the earth to try and get it right before reaching nirvana. My goodness, with thoughts like this, I could be the next L. Ron Hubbard (with better fashion sense, even for me).

I think it is more of me wanting to believe that we, humanity, can have a fresh start. Life would be so much easier with a restart button. or better yet a strategy guide-- walk through if you will. But life isn't a video game. Yet....

I want to be where he is. He as in that timeless beauty that is God; that amazing champion of all that is pure and good in this world. I want to be that pure. I want to be that flawless. I want to have that vision, see clearly what was and is and will be. I want to find that nirvana within myself, that plane of complexity that has formed up until the dying days of earth causes a rejuvenation of its surfaces and ocean ways.

Peace of mind. Mind at peace.

Turning of Tides...and Turds

I decided, to make it a blog entry lol.

Ever since I started working for CBS I really haven't had much time to do anything else. It's not that CBS takes up all of my time, it's literally that I now have three jobs and spend most of my time working, traveling, or hanging. That also means, I spend less time on Facebook (an added bonus). 

Ah yes, Facebook. The infinite causer of so many issues. One in particular used to make me cringe. My Ex-boyfriend enjoys liking everything I write on his sister's wall, one of those sad "hey I'm still here" attempts I've gotten so used to (I have another Ex who calls me at 3 in the morning to profess his uh, stupidity to me at least twice a year). What can I say, I sure can pick them. But for whatever reason, regardless of the space I give, I don't like anything he likes, I don't comment on anything he comments on, he still thinks it's okay to add his two cents to everything I say.

So I write all this to say...I am starting to feel...really sorry for him. I think the song that fits pretty well would be an Amy Winehouse tune, Stronger Than Me. I mean, the age difference, the distance, the whole reason we broke up...why are you still Facebook waring me? Honestly I don't know what I should do. Should I continue to comment on the thread? I don't want him to think I'm okay with chatting with him via the internet. I mean he left me for a woman he's not even with anymore... leaving her for someone else doesn't make us cool.

I know I over analyze EVERYTHING. But I just think...that leaving me alone, especially after the way he treated me, would be the manly thing to do--hell, the mature thing to do. Right?

I just shake my head. I feel like he's in a really sad position. He's done little if anything since I left Georgia. Not much has changed. I feel like I've gained so much knowledge and wealth since I moved. But what was I expecting.

I wrote all of this because, I'm tired. I'm tired of trying to be cordial, and forgiving. I'm tired of always watching my step to preserve a path only for those around me to muddle about and ruin my work. But more so, I'm tired of holding on to so much scar tissue. I have so much going for me. I have a job working for one of the networks, I have a lovely boyfriend; I live in Freaking New York City.... I've played with the idea of getting off of Facebook, nothing but a bunch of connections to either people I don't know or people I'm not really friends with, because if I was, we would talk or text. I post to let people know I am still here. To make my father laugh, to make myself laugh, to make my friends smile and repost. Not to tip toe around one of my best friend's page because I don't want to deal with her brother, my Ex.

*big shrug* but what would you do without me, and I without the outlet. Last time I went home to Georgia, I told someone so important to me, I would eventually let our friendship go, and it seems he let it go as soon as I came back North. maybe he couldn't handle it. It was my first attempt at controlling a relationship, something I often have so little control over. So, once more, I'm going to attempt to let a relationship go. I've been trying to let it go for years now. But now I realize, I've been holding on to it for the same amount of time.

I won't answer back, I'll continue to do what I've already been doing: glossing over his comments, thinking of good times, and as fucked up as it may seem, genuinely wishing him nothing but love and happiness.  Because God knows, he needs it so much more than me.

AHHH!!--- a box of crackers just fell over in my room on it's own 9_9'. mini heart attack. Guess that's my cue to stop typing and go to bed. Gotta take a long walk in the morning. 

Laters

First Kiss

I was watching Mad Men on Netflix tonight. I had gotten to the episode where Betty explains to her daughter Sally that "you don't kiss boys, boys kiss you." and that the first kiss is the most amazing kiss you will ever have.

I began thinking about my first kiss, but not the very first one. That one was all wrong....I mean my recent first kiss (Betty says you have many first kisses ie with different people). My current boyfriend and I are headed towards 6 months of being in a relationship, and even though that isn't exactly the longest time frame in the world, I began reminiscing about that first kiss we shared.

When I say he was as smooth as butter...oh man. Maybe I had one too many drinks, but I stood outside with him and a group of smokers on a cold Halloween night and one by one the group dissipated until it was just me and him. I don't exactly know why I stood out there, I don't smoke and often times hate the very smell of it, but I remember watching him blow little puffs of beautiful smoke in the air dancing slowly with my breath and there was something so very sexy about it.

when it was just us two he asked me about a comment I said earlier, "I only attract short guys." He had thought I said I only 'date' short guys. "No," I answered. "I said I usually attract short men. I have no problem dating guys who are taller than me." He followed up with, "That's good to know." and stepped closer to me; and I--for almost the first time in my life-- looked up into a man's eyes while he wooed me his words and smile. It was the strangest thing. I couldn't help but smile at his response. He was flirting with me, and I found it increasingly hard not to kiss him. But I didn't. I think I bit my lip, batted my eyes, and said something cute to supersede the feeling.

He leaned forward and kissed me, In front of my job, in the dark; in the cold air of October. Nothing about the kiss was cold. I felt warm all over. It wasn't a sloppy or dirty kiss. It was light and just like out of the movies. And afterwards I looked up at him and kissed him right back.

When I think about our first kiss I smile. He is a good man and an amazing kisser. When I think back to that night so many things could have happened to change the outcome of our relationship, but they didn't.

Betty was right. there is something so amazing about that first kiss. Supposedly every other kiss that follows is only a shadow of the original you are trying to replicate. And maybe she's right (I know, the fictional television character). All I know is, I question every decision and step I make; I self sabotage, and I often doubt the validity of my relationships. I don't want to do that with him. I want to believe that all it took was that flicker of the eye caught that of another and a ball began to roll even before we realized it.

What I'm saying is, I want this to work. I want to be happy with him. And I think I can. I really don't want to doubt these type of things anymore. And I'm trying not to.

Scrapes From My Youth

Sitting in my bed I happened upon an old childhood scar I got while doing some really daredevil things. I remember vividly my brother, some other kid, and myself riding our bikes at high speeds down the hill which was our street, making a sharp right turn into our driveway and plowing straight into the back yard, which was covered in dead leaves and surrounded by trees. The leave made steering near impossible and their was a fun air that came with the loss of control until the bike with us on it gave and we slid the rest of the way beside the bikes. We tried to stabilize ourselves to see how long one could before we inevitably it the ground.  We did it three times, realizing by the second time of how dangerous it was. "Once more than we have to stop." And once more we did it and the last time I wiped out the worst of all of the times; and I remember standing up and looking down and their being a giant quarter shaped hole in my jeans. "woooaaahh." was all that escaped me. It didn't take a rocket scientist to realize that the bike handle--which was missing the rubber grip on it's end-- had stabbed me on my way down. Still, after a split second of shock and amazement, we  high-fived and laughs about how I could have died.

It wasn't until I made it into the house that I realized I was bleeding. As with other stupid things I did in my childhood I didn't come right out and tell my parents. You see, the child mind is quite the interesting thing. You don't worry about possible infection or tetanus or death. No, you think about that lecture and/or spanking you're gonna get for tearing a pair of perfectly good jeans. I can't remember the story after that. I'm sure my parents had to have found out from me limping or even worse an article of clothing with a giant bloody hole in it inside of the kitchen trash can. What I do know is I have a story for the mark it left. For years It was very visible and I got used to it. Then it just became background. A slightly darker splotched that stretched as I grew older into nothing but a passing memory. I probably have at least five or six more stories like this one. A story of how I did something or something happened to me, and either I was amazed at the awesomeness of it all, or ruined by it. Most of my scars hurt and I cried about them. But a few of the stories, well, are just so amazingly cool, The tomboy in me is thinking, "Wicked!"

I wonder if that is life.

A living breathing thing made up of little marks and scratches to deep puncture wounds and stitches; things that negatively affect us.... Are their any positive marks?

Yes, we just over look them...I am covered with beauty marks. Little cute dots that formed over the years. One of them is near a spot that my dad has a little dot too, on our hands. I don't remember the exact story about how they formed or when. It happened over such a long period of time...for the most part you usually just suddenly noticed it.  However, I do remember not having them, then having them.  I feel that happy memories are like that as well.

Maybe it's just me, but I tend to dwell on the sad things more. Remember really terrible things, little emotional scars... But I also know their are beauty marks mixed in there.

I don't know, I just want to get to a place in my life, where I am one with the world. Nirvana. I want to see all the little beauty marks and smile, regardless of how many scars I have. I want to get to a point where my focus is no longer on the dark blotches on my knees from tripping while running on pavement. No, I want to be able to look pass them, and see that little dot on my nose and know that the world is beautiful, that I am beautiful, and it will all be okay.

Passing Thoughts

I find it odd how men are. how fleetingly they approach a subject they know nothing about. Perhaps it stems from the belief of entitlement. Either way, I find it so strange to me when a man is flawed in his words because of the pure hypocrisy of it all. I want to believe that I am just being bothered by the words of an egotistical zealot, one who believes he's achieved all he could hope for with hard work and a smile. But I know better. I know him inside out and I know that he, as all of us, are flawed when it comes to the temptation of the flesh. To see his words make me twinge with a bit of anger at how easily he can type such a mess. But then I remember, man is sensitive, and dim-witted. Not in the sense of intelligence but in grace and virtue. A master of the puppetry arts. but a real dummy when it comes to the soul. I wonder if he will ever come across this and know exactly what I mean when I say, for fuck sake. grow a pair.

I can only hope so.

I'm In

Met my boyfriend's parents. They seem to like me. enough to status update on Facebook about how sweet I was. Yup, I'm in.

But let me tell you, I was shitting bricks. The funny part, I walked into the dinner at the exact same time they did. I was like...damn the timing. So I got to do all my greeting and meeting at the door before I even locked eyes with my boyfriend. I sat next to his mom for lunch. Okay...not so scary...he WAS on the other side. But then at his play, he sat in the back...eeeek. now I was next to his mom and no one else!! But I think it went smoothly. When his play went on I began to smile and his mom happened to glance over and catch it. She probably thinks I'm awesome now lol.

I had the strangest dream last night. there was a little black lobster the size of like a pea, and a bigger black one. I did not want to try anything on or walk around my room because I was afraid they would be in my clothes and claw me. I kept making someone check stuff and every time we found them and trapped them they busted out. What is that about??

All I know is my New therapist isn't so fake sounding. though she picks at her nails a lot when I'm talking, and asks the obvious, "how does that make you feel" questions.  ugh... my life.

Meeting the Rents: A Manifesto

Tomorrow, I meet my boyfriend's parents. I'm not shitting bricks, but I would be lying if I didn't say I was a little bit nervous. Honestly...I'm having a little trouble with the actualization that I really like someone and they really like me. What a crazy turn of events from a year ago. But that's not what this blog is about, it's about his parents


Mind you they seem like lovely people via Facebook pictures and word of mouth. I realized I must really like him because of what a huge undertaking this seems to be. I want to make a great impression. I want them to like me. Sure I want everyone to like me, and parent's I met in the past I wanted to like me....but for some reason I REALLY want them to give me the okay. 


I'd also be lying if I said them being Jewish and me being  black didn't make me a little more nervous. Though, by all means, I shouldn't be about that. My boyfriend is Jewish and he is as happy as a clam with me. I'm glad we are all meeting in the city for brunch before my boyfriend's play. At least this way I won't bring the wrong bottle of wine or have to bring a gift at all. Oh God! The day will also come that I have to go to Long Island to have dinner with them!! I just thought about that! -_-' *massive panic attack*


Well we will see. I'm sure everything will go fine. I have no doubt that they will like me, my boyfriend says they will LOVE me. I'm still just a tad bit nervous.... I mean...if there is any such thing as the one...he sure is crossing out a bunch of awesome qualities on that list.... Honestly, I've already told him that I want to take it it one step at a time. So let's not even go there!! Let you know how it went later.

Jump Run Pass....

The title of this blog is a dedication to a man I met only once who I found out recently died in a car accident with a parked semi-truck. This is the name of the sports blog that he was editor in chief for. It's really sad.

I received an invite a few day ago on Facebook from this guy to some sort of event. I never read the event right away. Half the time I'm just trying to get the notification symbol to not be red anymore. So like most events it went into hiding until I was bored at work and needed to do something other than watch the same commercials all day. Yesterday, I began browsing through my events and came across his and when I read it, it made little sense to me. "Celebration of Life service?" I assumed it was a religious gathering of sorts and when I clicked on the event to see more, I realized the life being celebrated was the one who added me. He was dead. Someone (I later found out was his mother) was able to use his account to invite all of his friends to his wake. I didn't know how to feel. We talk and post and write as if we will be here forever. As if we all will live well into our 90's....

I only met the guy once. He spoke in the third person and used his own name as a catch phrase often times.  I thought he was full of himself, but it was also charming...I didn't know until recently that he had his hand in so many things: I believe he was a substitute teacher, he trained people at a gym and on the track, he wrote for a sports blog, hell, was editor of it....He did a lot and updated a lot and was traveling a lot and I say all this to say....That for some reason, even though I didn't know him well, his passing is bothering me.

Am I doing enough in my life right now that if I were to suddenly pass away I had anything to show for it? believe it or not, we all want to be remembered in some way. Death doesn't often allow you the time to figure out it's about to happened for you to get your life in order...Much like this guy, it is sudden and without warning. The fact that his event page has 250 people saying they will be there says something about how many lives he has touched. I can not say I've done that much in my 25 years of life... how depressing...

When I read about what happened I was taking a break at work from the mundane. I thought about it for the rest of the day in little spurts; how sad of a story it was. He was in the passenger seat and they ran right underneath the truck at a high speed....the driver survived, but barely. Before going to bed a women outside was screaming the name of someone over and over again. I rolled my eyes and thought, eventually she'll get tired and leave, or the police will chase her off. But at 3 a.m. this morning I was awakened by the hoarse voice of the women from crying out all night. This time the police did show up and I finally looked out the window and saw a very upset woman  and at least eight officers, seven of which were standing around, joking, and talking as if they were not responding to a call....from my window. It looked as if she was in desperate search for her lost teddy bear, and the police we're just going through the motions of writing down the information so they could leave and get back to the real work...

I wrote all this because seeing her--oily hair, dirty sneakers, ripped pants--reminded me of him. She reminded me of life in general. Calling out trying to get someone to take her seriously about what ever it is she has to say...but everyone shrugging her off going about business as if she will always be. Life is dirty and desperate, but it is also beautiful in it's own way. my Facebook friend's life is over and like that, the world turns. For me, it's a scary thought. We dismiss life so easily as an ongoing entity. We have nothing but time. Every time I talk to someone about how I feel like I'm not doing enough, I'm told, "How old are you? 20-something?? You have time!" But do I really? I believe I do and so does everyone else, but we really don't know. This event has caused me to look at what I have done so far in my life and I feel like I've done close to nothing. My friend and I were the same age and he had a hand in so many things and helped so many people....Maybe that was his main purpose in life, but what is mine?

Today his body will be on view at one of the funeral homes in California where I believe he lived. Today is also--according to Facebook-- his birthday. It's not really his birthday. His birthday is in June. What a little trickster he was.

Fat Girl Me

So If you look at a picture from June of last year and look at one of me now you will notice 2 things: 1. my dreads have grown in nicely and 2. Geeezzz I've gotten fat. I know, I know. That seems to be a terrible thing to sit down and look at, but even when I try to pretend like the scale is lying to me, I can't because I have photographic proof that I've gained back 20 lbs. And the excuses! Man, I can't work out because I need to make sure my room is in order. My room's not in order because I have to work, I have to work because if I don't I'll be homeless...well that last one is true, but I do know that I am simply not making time to workout, just like how I was not making time to write because, "I need the right setting to do so" and my room stays a mess so I can't.

But it's not just the working out, it's the eating. I used to be fine with tiny portions now I can't tell if I'm full unless I'm bursting. I have all of these things to my disposal at work: cookies, chips, soda, burritos. I don't drink soda so that isn't a problem for me, but I've racked up quite a sugar addiction and I literally get an itch for candy or something sweet after meals. That definitely can't be good. I'm starting to think I'm not only addicted to sugar, but to overeating in general. Eating makes me happy usually, and it taste good. I like the feeling of eating something tasty and when I'm bored I always take a quick look in the fridge for something to munch on. I tell you, I need a 12 steps program to lower my habit down to "eating for survival", not for fun...

I don't have to go to work until late tomorrow. I plan on cleaning my room and finishing up an article for the online publication I write for --nerdcaliber.com-- and getting some pilates in. But the truth is...because I don't want to really work out...I'll have breakfast, take a shower, peruse facebook for memes and watch How I Met Your Mother before making a small attempt at organizing my room, only to  fall asleep and wake up just in time to head out to work. *sigh*

Sleeping with a bottle of...

pills.

In this heavily over medicated world we live in, I can honestly say that I am one of the many whom rely on meds to keep my mood stable.  I take prozac for my chronic depression (thought I'm told by a few people that that is not a real disease). For months now things have been pretty okay...that is until I switched doctors and forgot to get a refill...now I have to wait a month and I'm trying to stretch out the last week and a half by slowly self lowering the dose. I'd rather just get a prescription, but doing so is almost impossible which makes little sense...isn't half of the country taking a life long medication? 

I bring all that up to say, I'm starting to get a few of those residual feelings that I've stashed away deep down in that tiny little box we all have. Oh who am I kidding...for me, It's definitely still baggage. I wish I could leave it on the curb Wednesday and Friday with the rest of the trash, but I think these attachments to the past go much deeper than just being able to leave it somewhere. 

First off, I'm a little hurt that Mr.X didn't move to New York. I didn't ask him to. He asked me...and I thought about it and decided to assist him. Now it is almost like we never had that conversation; like the thought never existed. I want to blame some unconscious fear of his, but it could be anything really. I recently started dreaming of the west coast and I feel I need to sit down in person and tell him how I feel about his abandonment of that dream; essentially of me. Obvious there are a lot more issues surrounding us, but I came to the realization that as much as I love him in my life, eventually we will have to go down separate paths and it makes me sad..

Then there is the 'literal' dreams I keep having. Maybe I really do need that prescription to keep sane, because too often I dream of my ex. It doesn't help that whenever I think I'm fine with the break up, that someone either calls, texts, or says out loud, "SO ARE YOU OVER BLAAAANNNKKK!??" or recently and even worse, "Hey, didn't you used to date a tattoo artist? Was his name Blank? Not to cause any trouble,but...he's now dating my friend." I'm sure you don't mean to cause any trouble...but I also know the last thing I want/need to know is how my ex continues to find these relationships that are one degree away from me. I mean, for crying out loud a few of the girls he cheated on me with I went to high school with...In the end, I'm still in love...and it hurts to know that. It sucks too, because I'm still carrying that huge bag around with me...even though I have...

A new boyfriend. A very sweet, sometimes weird, but always thoughtful MAN who can play the saxophone, write plays, and sing Boyz II Men perfectly when we do Karaoke. *sigh* He's pretty wonderful. But the truth is, I know I can't manage a brand spanking new Marc Jacob  bag  (well...more like Fossil lol) and a duffle bag, AND a freakin' garbage dumpster all at once. Something has got to give...and because my feelings have grown exponentially for this guy...I realize...I am scared shitless of the aspect of trusting him to do anything. But I feel like this guy might be different... I mean, I told him for the next month I couldn't have sweets and when I saw him, he brought me apples, "in case of cravings." I couldn't ask for more of a nice guy.... sigh...why the heck am I worried about this...damn you prozac....

House of Change

Things are really changing around these parts. When I say this I mean new digs, new relationships, new way of thinking...and of course, new anxieties. I'm starting to think you can't have one without the other. In my life I'm learning that I spend a lot of time wishing and hoping for things and doing other things that just don't seem to go well together.

I'm being pretty vague here, mostly because I don't think I even know what I'm talking about. I have a new apartment and I enjoy being able to close my door and have my own space. I'm closer to the city, I'm closer to the train, and closer to fun things in Queens. Oh, and closer to my beau. But being so close to everything is starting to make me claustrophobic. When things are going too well I begin to panic. When I start to get close to people or things I start feeling like I'm being smothered. It's probably just a defense mech but believe me, I could do without. I had such an overwhelming feeling of trust and happiness recently...and once it was confirmed by both parties I began to question if It was a real feeling at all.  Hows that for being vague huh? Like how I did that.

Anyways, things are moving along. I think I'm going to sign this lease for a year and just deal with the loud train passing by every few minutes and take pleasure in my shopping therapy sessions that end in new shoes every month. Because somewhere in the world, that's kind of what life really is. (trains and shoes??)

food for thought.